Missing Teen's Mom Says Daughter Left Suicide Note

Peconic teen Ashley Murray has been missing since Monday, sparking a police search.

The worst part for Peconic resident Charlotte Murray, whose 16-year-old daughter, Ashley, has been missing since Monday morning, was when night fell and her daughter still hadn't returned home.

"We don't know where she is," Murray said. "All I can think of is, 'Where did she go?'"

Ashley left a suicide note, Murray said on Tuesday, which claimed she was upset with the world, mentioning a "watery grave" and a stranger "taking her to a deep abyss."

"It sounds like she was writing song lyrics," her mom said.

Murray said her daughter had been posting dark Facebook status updates, saying that she was "no longer afraid," and "was just going to do it."

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Southold Police were on the scene near Murray's Peconic home Monday with a dive team and search dogs. By Monday night, the physical search had been called off and an "investigative search" continued. The teen was still missing as of Tuesday afternoon.

"We're hoping that she's just being dramatic and she's just hiding away," Charlotte Murray said.

Her daughter, Murray said, left with no money but had her iPhone. The phone, however, has no signal and cannot be traced. Murray said it could be turned off or under water – a mother's greatest fear.

"The worst part was when it got dark last night," she said. "I just thought, 'She should come home now. It's nighttime.' I don't know if she got to sleep in a bad last night or if she's in the back of a car."

When last seen, Ashley, who is 5'4 and 140 pounds, with auburn hair, was wearing red baggy sweat pants, and a black-and-gray corduroy zippered sweatshirt with a hood.

Her daughter, Murray said, left without phone chargers, medication for her anemia, clothes or even a toothbrush.

Murray thinks her daughter is still alive, and said she wonders whether someone is helping her.

But with no clues, the not knowing is painful. "I didn't sleep at all last night," she said. "It's like she just walked out of this life."

Murray said her daughter's last text, to another girl, was sent from Southold and also mentioned suicide.

Southold Town police said Monday evening that they had "nothing new to report" in the ongoing search for a missing 16-year-old Peconic girl.

According to Southold Town Police Chief Martin Flatley, "Our physical search of her neighborhood has ended, but we are still pursuing other investigative leads along with her family. We will certainly notify all interested parties when there are any developments."

Many concerned residents have asked why police did not release a name or photo of the missing teen.

"We have not released a photo as of yet as we are still pursing investigative leads. The investigation is still relatively young," Flatley said Monday night.

On Monday morning, officers conducted a missing persons' search for a 16-year-old Peconic resident.

The call came in at approximately 10:45 a.m. Monday, Flatley said. Searches were conducted near the area where the teen resides, he added, including a flyover search of the Peconic Bay.

"We're hoping we or family members can make contact with her so we know she's accounted for," Flatley said.

Flatley said a missing persons' bulletin could be issued Tuesday. "Unfortunately we do not comment on active investigations, but always welcome information on this. We will be releasing our missing persons bulletin with complete information," he said Tuesday afternoon.

Jim February 26, 2013 at 09:09 PM
God help that little girl. The whole town should have been on alert to keep an eye out since 11AM Monday. BAD JOB here. Pray for her
Michael Bredemeyer February 26, 2013 at 10:27 PM
AMBER Alert Guidelines A Law Enforcement Agency with an inquiry about an AMBER Alert can contact the NYSP Special Victims Unit through the State Police 24/7 Communications Section at 518-457-6811. The New York State AMBER Alert Plan can be activated when an investigating law enforcement agency has reasonable cause to believe that: An abduction of a child (under the age of 18) has occurred, and The child is believed to be in danger of serious bodily harm or death, either due to the actions of another or due to a proven mental or physical condition. Even if formal activation criteria have been met, activation may be impractical if available information is not specific enough and/or an extended period of time passed since the disappearance. For example, an AMBER Alert specifying involvement of a white van (without a license plate number) could actually hinder an investigation by causing the public to inundate police agencies with possible sightings.
Michael Bredemeyer February 26, 2013 at 10:28 PM
Notes: "Reasonable Cause to Believe" means that from eyewitness accounts, OR by eliminating other possibilities, your investigation leads you to believe that a child has been abducted. Familial abductions qualify only if a child is endangered by the actions of the abducting family member. Whenever an AMBER Alert request does not meet activation criteria, requesting agencies are referred to other NYSP investigative resources and to the NYS DCJS Missing Persons Clearinghouse (MPC) for possible issuance of a Missing Child/College Student Alert.
Dandude1 February 26, 2013 at 11:14 PM
Amber Alert Law & Legal Definition: In states with an Amber Alert Plan, parents of a missing or abducted child can contact their local police or sheriff’s department to file a Missing Person Report. If a child is missing and believed to be in danger, there is no 24-hour waiting period. The law enforcement agency will immediately enter information about the missing child into the Missing Person’s database and the National Crime Information Center’s Missing Person File. Participating law enforcement agencies can request an Amber Alert if their investigation determines that the child’s disappearance meets the Amber Alert criteria.
Dandude1 February 26, 2013 at 11:16 PM
Dandude1 February 26, 2013 at 11:19 PM
Im in total agreement..
Michael Bredemeyer February 26, 2013 at 11:20 PM
Go To The Amber Alert Website For NY State
Michael Bredemeyer February 26, 2013 at 11:21 PM
Dandude1 February 27, 2013 at 12:05 AM
Im not going to argue guidlines while a child is missing, but yea.. number 1 and 2 are missing Or abducted... Number 2, suicide note proves reason to believe, and missing child with a mental condition, .. does it not?
Tracey Robbo February 27, 2013 at 01:46 AM
Hope she returns home safely and soon.... Everyone should of been made aware of her disappearance, straight away.... More so because of the things she wrote on the note to her mother and all the texts all her friends had received.. Just think its so sad a child of this age even contemplates this type of ending to there lives.... She should be out having fun, with no worries in the world.... Go home Ashley.....You need help babe xxx Thinking of all her family and friends till she's home SAFE xx Tracey, Liverpool UK
Jill C. Davila February 27, 2013 at 01:54 AM
Praying for her safe return
Michael Bredemeyer February 27, 2013 at 01:58 AM
point is, ny state has there own plan and when a state comes up with there own plan or has one in place, they go by that one and not the national one.. hence why nothing really has been done thats what im saying.
Jim February 27, 2013 at 02:24 AM
Mike ....forget the Amber alert. No news anywhere about this MISSING CHILD WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY???????????? BAD JOB POLICE DEPARTMENT.........BAD BAD JOB
Elizabeth Orlando February 27, 2013 at 02:36 AM
I truly hope that she is safe somewhere the article says that she texted friends about her suicide we need to let our children know that when one of their friends makes a threat like that they need to tell someone right away!
RGBPI February 27, 2013 at 02:52 AM
Hope she returns safely!
RGBPI February 27, 2013 at 02:56 AM
Will offer my services free of charge if asked.
Kat February 27, 2013 at 03:12 AM
why was the search called off so quickly..what is going on with this beautiful teenage girl that is missing, she has a medical condition, suicide did the note say why? Close friends, boyfriend, non of her close friends know anything???So many questions and no answers..this is scary for any parent!
Kathy f February 27, 2013 at 03:23 AM
As a mom of 4 beautiful children my heart goes out to this family. Ashley I hope that you find your way home so that your family can get you the help and support you need. You are loved by many. God bless
Localgrl98 February 27, 2013 at 03:24 AM
If she is in high school why was she leaving the house at 8:30.... Wouldn't school have started already. Seems a little off don't you think?
adara February 27, 2013 at 05:00 AM
I think the mother staged the note and texts to friends....she doesnt seem to care much the way she speaks and if the girl was just hiding out somewhere to see who cares...her mother thinking she is just "dramatic" proves her mother didn't take her depression seriously.
harley February 27, 2013 at 05:54 AM
according to google maps woods surrounding a creek near spring lane,there is possibility she can be hiding in an old abandoned shed or something use.for shelter. she also can be hiding.on a farm or field. my opinion is that she maybe hiding in an old.barn or shed in the woods near home or with someone she is very and secretly close to
Alley Adair February 27, 2013 at 12:02 PM
The police department here isn't exactly recognized for doing a "good job" all the time. Unfortunately I don't think you can blame solely the police. Yes, the public should have been made aware of her dissapperance after they noticed she wasn't at school. I was watching news 12 all day yesterday for a picture or something. All they mentioned was "a 16 year old Peconic girl went missing a photo and name will be released later". At 6am I started watching again and nothing yet, unless of corse they found her which I highly doubt. It's unfortunate to see that a report was made with no real information to help find this girl... Whatever technicallity that was preventing them from giving a name and picture immediately should be changed right away...
'Diana Nash Alvarado February 27, 2013 at 02:39 PM
Her parent did her part in reporting her missing right away!!....a.suicidal note clearly is a sign of potential bodily harm and definetly in a state of mind that falls under the Amber alert!...Now.had the parent not reported it...they would be the first to say ohhhh...the parent failed to report the child missing and that is probably the cause of a so far unsuccessful search!! Praying for her safe and well return...and Ashley if you are reading these...please go home...nothing is so bad you need to take your own life...your young beautiful and ppl love u!...You havent even reached your potential of what you could do in your many years of life ahead...its all up to you!!...hopefully its not too late!...Love yourself and know that you are worth it!!!...Dont mess up Gods plan for you!....You have the power to become anything you put your mind to and the gift of time to set forth the means to get there. God bless ypu Ashley.
Susan Fisher Tyler February 27, 2013 at 04:18 PM
They. Had. Their. Reasons. Period.
Susan Fisher Tyler February 27, 2013 at 04:20 PM
It 'seems' as though there were many red flags that could have/should have been picked up on. *sigh, hindsight.
Susan Fisher Tyler February 27, 2013 at 04:21 PM
Thanks, I wondered that too, but figured if I asked I'd be blasted for splitting hairs.
Cayla Boettcher February 27, 2013 at 05:25 PM
This is the second girl in new york that went missing and said they were going to harm themself by drowning... I hope Ashley returns home safely
holly katakalides February 27, 2013 at 06:46 PM
The police think because a note with dark thoughts was found......shes dead their job is done........thats fucked up that the police wont do anything else
Local gal February 27, 2013 at 07:32 PM
What about the time thing. Why was she leaving for school at her normal time AFTER school should have started? The mothers fact don't line up. Get the story straight
A Drin February 28, 2013 at 04:59 AM
Someone above mentions another case like this in NY. Never heard of that one..was ther another case like this recently?


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