Have You Spoken To Your Children about Ashley Murray?

Missing for one week, the 16-year-old Peconic girl is on the mind of people throughout the East End. Has her case started a dialogue in your family?

Monday marks one week since Peconic teen Ashley Murray was reported missing, and since then the North Fork community has come together to try and find the 16-year-old girl to no avail.

Missing person alerts have been posted at businesses throughout the East End, a Facebook page has been set up, and news outlets continue to cover the story, as we all wait for word about what happened to the girl who left her mother a suicide a note and hasn't been seen since.

We were wondering how North Fork Patch readers, who are parents, have reacted. Has the situation sparked discussions in your house? Have your children — who didn't know Ashley — asked questions? How young is too young to discuss it with them? Have you used the situation to start a dialogue with your kids about how they can reach out if they are in despair? Or are you not sure how to handle the situation?

We would like to start a dialogue here and support one another as we all navigate a situation that has struck very close to home. Leave your thoughts in the comments section below.

Jim March 05, 2013 at 03:02 PM
simple fact remains....16 year old girl gone missing and in a weeks time there are no answers... and interest (with a few exceptions) is waining. Sad Sad story.
MaryGrace Steinfeld March 05, 2013 at 03:35 PM
Clearly someonethatcares09 you cared a lot about your friend Ashley. And your feelings do you credit. This is a terrible tragic situation that makes everyone cry. But for the people who knew her directly, like yourself, you end up torn up inside over what could have been if things had been done differently. I get a feeling you may have been a schoolmate of Ashley or of a similar age bracket. Use your feelings to make a change. Students need a group to help them have a voice. Create an anti bullying group in your community/school so that kids can have a place to come to be heard by their peers. And where as a group you can report bullying and have each others back on a daily basis. But also let kids come also to voice issues and concerns that may be occurring at home so the group can help them as well. Changes occur when people unify and stand together on an issue. If you look online their is a group called Ambassadors for Kids (A4K). It may be of interest to you. Whatever you decide, just try to use what you are feeling to create something positive out of it.
Someonethatcares09 March 05, 2013 at 03:45 PM
i did, more than people come to think. and this is a terrible situation. i did not go to her school. I am from Greenport school and we used to hang out a lot before her mother decided to interfere but that's a different story. i will take that idea into consideration. and thank you for your support and help. I will make a dofference to those in need and i hope you can some day help this become a better place and of you are a parent please understand we mean no harm and us being different and for parents to not support us is a big torn up idea and it hurts us deep down. but due to this situation i will take into consideration the idea of creating an anti bullying group. Thank you very much MaryGrace Steinfeld. I appreciate the understanding and your way of coming to me without any negativeness.
MaryGrace Steinfeld March 05, 2013 at 04:20 PM
You are so welcome someonethatcares09 . And know that I don't judge you. There is nothing to judge. We are all different on some way or another. Just know there are many accepting people and parents in the community. Also remember that others base their beliefs on what they were taught when they were young. That doesn't mean it can't be changed. I actually have a nephew who came out as a bisexual after he entered college. Surprisingly enough my brother, his father, who was always religious, accepted this and was supportive to him. So don't despair, there are people in the community who care. If you go to Greenport schools you happen to have a great superintendent based on my experience with him. I bet if you speak to him he would be very supportive in helping you form the group.
Someonethatcares09 March 05, 2013 at 04:35 PM
thank you very much for your support. and i do know many people who have become very supportive of this an have helped me thru a lot. My parents do not agree or accept e for how i am but there are others who have come to help me thru so much and i am grateful they have stayed and helped me thru the tough times. I do feel hurt that Ashley did not have the support i had but i did want to help her. she said a few things to me and always atempted to push me away which is why i couldnt have helped her thru the tough times she had the last few weeks. i do care about her and i feel awful about the situation but i will do anything to help others who need to be heard. because just like others i needed support and all it took was corage to go up to someone and open up. take the risk and i came to be accepted. my parents still dont because they think is against their belief and i understand so i try to be good for them and try to not make them different around me. i am glad your nephew has the support of his father. and i will try to go up to the superintendent and speak with him about this and how i want to help oters at least by giving them a chance to be heard. i appreciate the help


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