Hundreds Mourn the Death of Southold Freshman Ronan Guyer

Young and old remembered the active life of a well liked and caring teen Monday night.

There are no words.

This was the phrase heard often at DeFriest Grattan Funeral Home in Mattituck Monday night, as a long line of mourners waited to greet and comfort the family of Ronan Guyer, a 14-year-old Southold High School freshman who died Nov. 14, five days after suffering cardiac arrest and collapsing this past Friday during a warm-up before the New York State Public High School Athletic Association cross country championships in Elma.

The tragic and shocking death drew family members and friends, parents and young classmates of Ronan, an active student-athlete who played tennis and lacrosse — and absolutely loved sailing. Recent pictures of Ronan — who became quite tall at 14 — with his father and alone on a sailboat were on display, projecting the blossoming enthusiasm he had for the sport.

A video slide show of Ronan and his family showed pictures of a young, smiling boy with shaggy blond hair posing with his family on skiing trips, riding a dirt bike, and with his siblings dressed up as a rock band, complete with inflatable guitars and fake facial hair — with Ronan’s big blue eyes shining no matter what the pose.

Ronan was born in Port Jefferson on April 24, 1998, to Stephen and Lori Guyer. He was a member of the Southold High School cross country team, NJROTC, Southold Boy Scout Troop 6, the Mattituck and Southold sailing teams, and the Southold Yacht Club.

Surviving are his parents, Stephen and Lori Guyer, brother, Colin Guyer, and sister, Shannon Guyer, all of Southold; his paternal grandparents, Florence and Stephen Guyer of Riverhead; maternal grandparents, Barbara and John Schmidt of Wading River; and aunts and uncles, John and Diana Schmidt of Buffalo, Ed and Lisa Plaia of East Moriches, Andy Franz of California and Pamela Guyer and Bonnie Eldon, both of Brooklyn.

His parents request that in lieu of flowers, donations be made to the Ronald McDonald House or the Peconic Gardiners Junior Sailing Association.

Funeral services continue on Tuesday from 4 to 8 p.m. at DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home in Mattituck.

Pat Gatt November 20, 2012 at 12:43 PM
My deepest heartfelt sympathy goes out to the entire Guyer family! What an unspeakable tragedy it is to lose one so young! Our family has been wallopped by the loss of children too so I will pray for the Guyer family that they will eventually find peace. Our daughter died suddenly only one day after her 26th birthday in 2004. We still feel the loss but now, I only allow myself to remember the many wonderful memories we shared, her million dollar smile and famous bear hugs she gave to anyone who wanted or needed one. Dear Guyer family, please know that I still feel her all around us every day and - call me crazy if you want to - your Ronan will always be with you in spirit and in your hearts! Every time I think of our Laurie Ann and I want to cry, I remember that she used to cry WITH me so I only choose to remember her smile and the great memories we have of her and the way she would make us laugh. In time, may God take away your pain and allow only the sweet memories of your son take its place. God bless you and give you peace...
Giovanna November 24, 2012 at 05:22 AM
Dear Guyer Family, I do not know you but feel deeply connected to you in our common sorrow. My son Andy was also 14 when he passed in 2011, also while running for his track team in CT, and also from cardiac arrest. I see the beautiful image of your Ronan and my son breaks for him, for my own son, for all the young taken too soon and for us the parents who must bear this inconsolable pain. I am so sorry for your loss and carry you frequently in my heart and my prayers, wishing you the courage to carry on for Ronan's memory and your other children. With my heartfelt sympathy.
Jeff Reis November 28, 2012 at 09:38 PM
To Pat and Giovanna, I also went to this website, unquestionably for the same reason. My family lost our youngest son, to Lymphoma, only 7 months ago, also at age 14. Not a second goes by that I can't think about Spencer, so young and on a road to so much. He touched thousands with his fun, smile, intelligence, desire to become a veterinarian, study venom, and develop a cure for the disease which was too strong for him to fight. Studies of this illness continue, and Spencer did his best to help us overcome cancer, so hopefully others do not have to endure what we go through. All my best to you and yours, and of course the Guyer family, as you try to continue through this unthinkable tragedy.


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